Relationships
When Your Adult Child Stops Speaking to You
The messages go unanswered and you do not know what you did. What tends to help, what makes it worse, and how to stay…
Relationships
Splitting the Housework Without It Becoming a Fight
The problem is rarely the hoovering. It is being the only one who notices what needs doing. How to name that, and change it,…
Relationships
Taking Someone With You to an Appointment That Matters
They either say nothing or answer for you, and neither is a failure of love. How to agree what the person coming with you…
Relationships
How to Offer Help Without Making It Awkward
You want to help and you don't want to intrude, so you say the sentence that never works. What to offer instead, and what…
Relationships
How to Help a Friend Who Is Caring for Someone
They will never ask, and they need it more than anyone you know. Here is what actually helps a carer, and the offers that…
Relationships
How to End a Friendship Without a Confrontation
Most friendships do not need a final conversation, and some do. Here is how to tell which is which, and how to do either…
Relationships
What to Say When People Ask When You Are Having Children
It comes at every family gathering and you never have an answer ready. Here are lines that end it without a scene, and how…
Relationships
How to Talk to Your Parents About Their Will
Nobody wants this conversation and everybody regrets not having it. Here is how to raise it without sounding like you are counting the money.
Relationships
What to Say to a Friend Going Through a Divorce
Most people say something reassuring and then go quiet for a year. Here is what actually helps, what to avoid, and how to handle…
Relationships
What to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving
You are not going to say the perfect thing, and it was never available. Here is what actually helps, what to avoid, and what…
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